Tuesday, July 28, 2009

So There's This Boy...

2 weeks ago, my friend's coworker invited us out to the races because his roommate races. The guy we went to watch ended up winning and so they invited us back to the pits once the races were over, and then out to the bars afterwards. The driver, we'll call him C, and I hit it off really well and even though there was a large group of people at the bar celebrating his victory, he pretty much spent the whole time talking to me. Before we left, he asked us if we would be back next week but both of us were out of town (He ended up getting 2nd place that week).

Last week while I was on a mission trip, I had a voicemail from a number I didn't know. Turns out it was C, who had his friend get my phone number from my friend. He asked me if I was going to the races so I text my friend to see if her and her bf wanted to go. Originally she said she thought they would, but ended up backing out. I told C I would go if my friend was up for it, but he said I could always go with him if she said no.

So, Saturday night I met C at the races where he paid $25 for me to go back to the pits with him (Turns out I'm the only person he has ever paid to go back to the pits without expecting them to work on the car). After qualifying for the finals, he asked me if I wanted to walk with him, so we walked a little bit and then went and sat and watched all of the other heats before intermission. After walking the track during intermission (to check out the condition of the track of course), we went back to the pits so he could get ready for the finals. Unfortunately, C caused a wreck at the beginning of the finals and had to end up pulling out of the race. Needless to say, he was upset so I just gave him his space and gave him time to cool off. But apparently I cheered him up pretty soon because he was fine after 30 minutes. Despite the loss, we went out to a bar afterwards and had a good time.

On paper, C is a great guy. He is:
- Older
- In the Air Force Reserves
- Majoring in Political Science (which used to be my major)
- Planning on being a lawyer and running for State Representative
- Very nice, funny, and he really likes me (I think he has talked to me everyday since he got my number and has asked me to hang out several times since then)

But there's just one problem...C is not really a Christian. I'm assuming from the few comments he has made that it's not that he doesn't believe in God, it's just that he doesn't have a personal relationship with Him. I'm not really sure how I should tell him that we can't date. My plan is to go on what he refers to as 'a real date' because I don't want to tell him through text or over the phone...that just seems heartless. But, I don't know what I should say - I don't want him to think I'm judging him or that I think I'm better than him.

Any suggestions?

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  2. YAY YOU!! This is awesome that you've been having some fun & it does seem like he is pretty into you already. [not surprised] ;)

    You said that you think he DOES believe in God, but are unsure about how strong that relationship is...I think that's better [more hopeful] than him flat out saying he doesn't believe. You are going to encounter several guys who have not been as in touch with their faith as much as some of us...YET! There is always potential! I say go on the date & hopefully time will be appropriate for some serious conversation in which you can then tell him how important God is in your life & for guys you date to be the same.

    Don't give up on him yet...if he REALLY likes you, he will keep your best interests at heart & do what he can to keep you around! ...if not, then, it wasn't meant to be. ;)

    Best wishes & keep us updated on here!

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  3. I totally understand your dilema. I'm texting and flirting outrageously with a guy who I don't think is a Christian. We haven't had the 'are you a Christian? What is the meaning of life?' talk lol but I don't think he is. I really, really want him to be because I'm a bit crazy about him at the moment! Basically, I'm hoping for the best but expecting the worst :( Not sure what to do really. So I can't offer any advice! Just dropped by to tell you I'm in a similar boat really...

    Hope you figure something out and then let us know,
    Blue Eyes xx

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