So There's This Boy...

2 weeks ago, my friend's coworker invited us out to the races because his roommate races. The guy we went to watch ended up winning and so they invited us back to the pits once the races were over, and then out to the bars afterwards. The driver, we'll call him C, and I hit it off really well and even though there was a large group of people at the bar celebrating his victory, he pretty much spent the whole time talking to me. Before we left, he asked us if we would be back next week but both of us were out of town (He ended up getting 2nd place that week).

Last week while I was on a mission trip, I had a voicemail from a number I didn't know. Turns out it was C, who had his friend get my phone number from my friend. He asked me if I was going to the races so I text my friend to see if her and her bf wanted to go. Originally she said she thought they would, but ended up backing out. I told C I would go if my friend was up for it, but he said I could always go with him if she said no.

So, Saturday night I met C at the races where he paid $25 for me to go back to the pits with him (Turns out I'm the only person he has ever paid to go back to the pits without expecting them to work on the car). After qualifying for the finals, he asked me if I wanted to walk with him, so we walked a little bit and then went and sat and watched all of the other heats before intermission. After walking the track during intermission (to check out the condition of the track of course), we went back to the pits so he could get ready for the finals. Unfortunately, C caused a wreck at the beginning of the finals and had to end up pulling out of the race. Needless to say, he was upset so I just gave him his space and gave him time to cool off. But apparently I cheered him up pretty soon because he was fine after 30 minutes. Despite the loss, we went out to a bar afterwards and had a good time.

On paper, C is a great guy. He is:
- Older
- In the Air Force Reserves
- Majoring in Political Science (which used to be my major)
- Planning on being a lawyer and running for State Representative
- Very nice, funny, and he really likes me (I think he has talked to me everyday since he got my number and has asked me to hang out several times since then)

But there's just one problem...C is not really a Christian. I'm assuming from the few comments he has made that it's not that he doesn't believe in God, it's just that he doesn't have a personal relationship with Him. I'm not really sure how I should tell him that we can't date. My plan is to go on what he refers to as 'a real date' because I don't want to tell him through text or over the phone...that just seems heartless. But, I don't know what I should say - I don't want him to think I'm judging him or that I think I'm better than him.

Any suggestions?

Wasting My Time

Why do we worry so much about the things we can't control?

Today, God has shown me through 2 other people's lives that if we just put all our trust and control in His hands, He will not just take care of us, but provide for us in ways we could never have imagined.

My morning devotion was about being positive, even when we feel like the things and events in our life are not going the way we had hoped.

Even when we don't know God's plan for us, just know that He loves us and has something wonderful in store for us.

Love and Marriage

Sunday I had to work at 11 so I was forced to go to the church that has the early morning service, and not my church of choice.

There was a guest speaker, which I didn't mind so much, but when I heard the topic, I wasn't so excited. It was on marriage.

At first I thought to myself, great, I can't even go to church and escape this! But, it turned out to be a great sermon, I though, so I will share...

The title was Facing the Factors, and the speaker focused on what makes marriages fall apart.

1. Familiarity Factor - Revelation 2:4-5
When something new becomes familiar, then the familiar becomes taken for granted. The verse in Revelation is saying that we should go back and do the things that we did at first. I've never been married, but I have been in 2 long term relationships and know how easy it is to settle into a routine and everything becomes, well, familiar.

2. Fatigue Factor
While dating, your energy level is at the highest and your responsibility level is the lowest. His point here is not to lose track of your marriage once life gets crazy with careers and kids and life. He said "Don't settle for a surviving marriage, strive for a thriving marriage." Although I don't have any experience in this arena, I can see how this could be a huge problem.

3. Flaw Factor
Plain and simple, no one is perfect, so don't expect perfection

4. Faith Factor - Luke 14:26
He said that most couples put too much faith in their marriages and not enough faith in God. He said not to expect your spouse to fill the needs only God can provide.


While I was running yesterday morning, a guy drove up from behind me, slowed down, and then stopped his car in the middle of the street to ask for my phone number. Although I was somewhat flattered, it creeped me out, sorry dude, no number for you. Somehow I don't think a marriage-worthy Christian guy would ask for my number while driving by me running.

The Way You Make Me Feel

Conversation with Guy at Work -

(It is the end of the night, he is standing next to me in the back rolling silverware and talking to me while I am trying to count the cash register drawer.)

Guy: (After talking for about 5 minutes straight about how the girl he was seeing did something to hurt him) So you don't talk very much
Me: I'm sorry, I'm trying to count
Guy: How old are you?
Me: 21
Guy: Do you ever go out, how come I never see you downtown?
Me: Yeah I go out, I was out Friday and Saturday night
Guy: Oh really, where did you go?
I told him the bar I was at Friday night and then said, "I went to the races Saturday night, so we went downtown afterwards."
Guy: Really? I love the races, I go every year. Where did you go? (And then he goes on about races for quite some time)

I finished counting my drawer and went to walk towards the front of the restaurant to do something else...
Guy: Ok, see ya later
Me: Don't worry, I'll be back

So before I left I went and said "See ya!"
Guy: When? Where? What time?
Me: Well do you work tomorrow night?
Guy: No, but how about tonight?
Me: I thought you said the girl you're seeing is coming tonight?
Guy: She is but I will just tell her I'm going out with another girl instead
Me: I don't think she would like that very well, that wouldn't be very nice
Guy: If I told you what she did to me the other night you wouldn't think it was mean. It's ok, you can still come over


To clarify: Guy at work is very cute has a great personality and is from a small town (which means we have a lot in common), but he's not really boyfriend material. So I will just have to settle with him hitting on me at work - which I don't mind at all - and maybe we'll run into each other downtown sometime : )

This is How I Feel

Lyrics are so powerful to me, especially when they fit the mood I am in:

They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting

Not Ready to Make Nice by the Dixie Chicks

Remember me?

So I dated this guy in high school for 2 1/2 years but I ended up breaking it off and started dating the ex soon afterwards. Things didn't really end well and we never really talked much after that (even though he tried to call me all the time).

Flash forward 4 years, he is now a police officer in a town 30 minutes from my hometown. Last week, while he was working, he ran into my mom. Long story short, he asked me when he was going to see me again so I am supposed to meet up with him to ride 4-wheelers sometime. It will be nice to catch up and hang out again...but don't worry, we were both very clear with one another that it will be just as friends.

Single Perk of the Day: Getting hit on (As long as it's not from a creeper):

Conversation with guy from work (same one as last time):
Guy: Are you going out tonight?
Me: Me?
Guy: Yeah
Me: I don't know, probably not. Are you?
Guy: It depends...by myself, no. If you go out, maybe

I am That Girl

I have officially become the girl that all my friends and family members make comments to about my current relationship status: Single!

I love my small town, I really do, but sometimes people know too much about you...

Exhibit A: I went to pay a bill for my mom at the chiropractor's office in my hometown. Of course, I knew the secretary, so she asked me how I was, what I was doing this summer, and then: So are you dating anyone?

After leaving the chiropractor's office, I made my way to the doctor's office to pay another bill. Last summer, I worked at the doctor's office, which is when the ex broke up with me, so I guess I should have seen it coming but...The secretary asked me how I was, what I was doing this summer, and then: So, are there any cute boys in Warrensburg?

Then later that night, I went to babysit for my preacher while he and his wife went to a visitation. Now they have both given up asking me about boys because it's always the same answer, but this time, it came from their 4 year old son: Do you have a boyfriend? Poor boy, he is just used to the ex and I always being together because that's what he has always known. He still doesn't quite understand.

Exhibit B: I was the Maid of Honor in my sister's wedding, and it just so happens the Best Man was my brother-in-law's single brother. Small town, yet again, everyone knew that we were both single. And for some reason, several people felt compelled to make comments on how we should just start dating because "it would make things so much easier." Other family members asked me where the ex was, including my aunt who knows very well that we have been broken up but still has not gotten over it, or him.

Exhibit C: I went to a funeral yesterday for my great uncle and of course, the question of the day was: So, are you dating anyone? When are you getting married? My aunt said she wanted to set me up with another guy from work that is 29. I agreed, but found out today he has a girlfriend.

My mom said: "I don't know why everybody thinks you need someone!"

I love my mom.