Love and Marriage

Sunday I had to work at 11 so I was forced to go to the church that has the early morning service, and not my church of choice.

There was a guest speaker, which I didn't mind so much, but when I heard the topic, I wasn't so excited. It was on marriage.

At first I thought to myself, great, I can't even go to church and escape this! But, it turned out to be a great sermon, I though, so I will share...

The title was Facing the Factors, and the speaker focused on what makes marriages fall apart.

1. Familiarity Factor - Revelation 2:4-5
When something new becomes familiar, then the familiar becomes taken for granted. The verse in Revelation is saying that we should go back and do the things that we did at first. I've never been married, but I have been in 2 long term relationships and know how easy it is to settle into a routine and everything becomes, well, familiar.

2. Fatigue Factor
While dating, your energy level is at the highest and your responsibility level is the lowest. His point here is not to lose track of your marriage once life gets crazy with careers and kids and life. He said "Don't settle for a surviving marriage, strive for a thriving marriage." Although I don't have any experience in this arena, I can see how this could be a huge problem.

3. Flaw Factor
Plain and simple, no one is perfect, so don't expect perfection

4. Faith Factor - Luke 14:26
He said that most couples put too much faith in their marriages and not enough faith in God. He said not to expect your spouse to fill the needs only God can provide.


While I was running yesterday morning, a guy drove up from behind me, slowed down, and then stopped his car in the middle of the street to ask for my phone number. Although I was somewhat flattered, it creeped me out, sorry dude, no number for you. Somehow I don't think a marriage-worthy Christian guy would ask for my number while driving by me running.